By: VICTORIA WILSON on APRIL 24, 2017
“Choose your battles wisely. After all, life isn’t measured by how many times you stood up to fight. It’s not winning battles that makes you happy, but its how many times you turned away and chose to look into a better direction. Life is too short to spend it on warring. Fight only the most, most, most important ones, let the rest go.” -C. JoyBell C.
There are times in life when we have to make a decision about whether we are going to invest our time and energy to fight for something, or to simply walk away. Quite often the direction we choose depends on what we can and cannot control. Fighting what lies outside our realm of control is bound to result in an uphill battle that gets you nowhere. But focusing on what you have the power to change is likely to move you forward.
Need help deciding what to do? Use the “Choose Your Battles” Tarot spread to help you identify what you can and cannot change.
1.) Heart of the matter – The bottom line.
2.) What you can’t change – What you must accept you are powerless to change
3.) Lesson to take away – What will bring me a sense of closure?
4.) What you can change – What I do have power to change.
5.) Action that will facilitate this change – What can I do to usher in this change?
6.) Highest potential – What’s the most you can make of this situation?
7.) Advice – What do you need to know about moving forward?
After breaking up three months ago, the querent has reached out to his ex-girlfriend seeking forgiveness for his infidelity and a desire to rekindle their romance. She, however, is feeling resistant and unwilling to give him a second chance. The question is, “What does the querent need to know about pursuing this further?”
Heart of the situation -SEVEN OF SWORDS
Deception lies at the heart of the central conflict between their reunion. The querent will have to work to regain the trust that was once the foundation of his relationship.
What he can’t change – KNAVE OF WANDS
The querent has an impulsive inner nature that sometimes gets out of control. He needs to own up to this part of who he is. Sometimes the Knave of Wands does things because he wants to save face or be seen a certain way. He needs to look within himself to understand his motivations for wanting to patch this relationship together, and whether they are the right ones.
Lesson to take away – TEN OF WANDS
This card shows someone who is exhausted and worn out. Wands is generally about taking action. The querent is being called on to be more mindful of his impulsive tendencies. He can’t act on them all, as that is bound to exhaust his energy. Ten denotes a sense of finality. He might be better off accepting who he is rather than trying to be someone he is not.
What he can change – KING OF CUPS
The King of Cups represents someone with impeccable control over their emotions. The querent can make a greater effort to be aware of the emotional foundations of his impulses. Does cheating stem from an emotional need to be seen and acknowledged by the opposite sex? If that’s the case, the only way to address the cheating is to address that emotional need in some other way.
Action that will facilitate this change – THE MAGICIAN
The Magician teaches us that our inner state of mind eventually manifests itself in our outside environment. To change his situation he must first change from within, perhaps through the use of ritual and promoting specific daily habits. It’s a matter of learning through repetition.
Highest potential – ACE OF CUPS
This card represent the best possible outcome. It looks like there is a chance that the querent will succeed in his efforts of winning back his ex, but this will call on him to do inner work that he may not have the energy to complete (Ten of Wands). In this card a mother dotes on her newborn baby, giving it 100% of her attention. This is the kind of effort the querent will have to make in order to achieve his goal.
Advice – QUEEN OF WANDS
This card represents the querent’s ex-girlfriend. Note that the woman in this card cradles a wand in the same way the woman in the Ace of Cups cradles her baby. She’s an indepdent personality who isn’t afraid to be alone. With that in mind, the querent might be best off allow his ex-girlfriend to find a new love